I love this quote. I feel like I start off so many sunday inspiration posts by saying that, but its just as simple as that. I know not everyone loves inspirational quotes as much as I do, but having a good thought or mantra to remind yourself of where you want to be, what you want to do, or quite simply to have fun is such a beautiful thing and this is just that kind of quote. This is a mantra. This is something I strive to do. Lately I feel like I have been doing a lot of echoing, and I want to change that. I feel like everyone has a unique view of the world, shaped by our experiences, our values, and our goals, but so often our voices are all the same. That voice has been shaped by pop culture, friends, family, or how we think we should be. I want to have a unique voice, a truth all my own. That doesn’t mean I don’t want to agree with anyone or I don’t believe things that others believe, I just want a unique expression. Sometimes I find it hard to embrace who I am or my individuality. This quote is telling me to do exactly that. Be a voice, be who you are, and be okay with that. Don’t echo what others think or do just because you can, always stay true to yourself.
Now if you have ever met me you will know that quiet isn’t a word that will come to mind when you think of me. I am a little loud, outgoing, full of energy and ideas, and always goofing around. That usually doesn’t leave a lot of room in the day to be quiet, just ask David. Though I am sometimes loud and opinionated, I have found that my struggle in any relationship is finding my voice. Not my physical voice, that works quite well, but my inner voice, my truth. I have found that I usually go along with what others say, people please, and end up doing things I might not want to do. This leaves me feeling empty because I never truly get a chance to voice my truth, but do I really know what my truth would say? This is where this quote comes in. I have found that being quiet, taking a moment in the beginning of the day, before a big decision, before an important conversation, or just on the commute home from work, really helps me focus on my truth, what I want, what I desire the outcome to be, or how I want to live my life. Being quiet I hear so much more. Emptying my head of buzz and chatter, emptying my head of the continuing reel of things I need to do, or the latest celebrity gossip on TMZ, and really being quiet is one of the greatest things I have learned in finding my voice. I am going to try even harder this week to find more time to empty my thoughts and be quiet so that I can truly hear. I want to know my voice, know my truth. and creating that time I am one step closer.
I always grew up knowing that actions speak louder than words, but I don’t think I realized how important that is until later on in my life. Actions will always speak louder than words, you can say all of the things you want to about your world, your intentions, and your relationships, but at the end of the day what really matters is the job you did and the actions you took. I think in general people tell each other a lot of things, they tell themselves a lot of things, but what really separates us is the actions we take. We can tell each other we want deeper connections and different relationships, but actions are what matters. You can tell yourself all you want that you’re going to get up early and work out, blog, clean the house (whatever the case may be) but what really matters is if you actually do it. Now I am a dreamer, a thinker, and a planner. I am amazing at those things. I can dream up the biggest plans, think of the most amazing things to do, and plan them out. What I am going to strive to do this week, and beyond, is focus on the “doing” part. Focus on saying what I want, and working every day to achieve it. I am going to strive to let my actions speaks for themselves.
I just adore this quote, because of its complete and honest truth. I am a true believer that happiness is a decision you make, and staying happy is a that decision being repeated over and over in your daily routine. Happiness is not a destination but a side effect of courage, work, and intentional behaviors. Obviously anything worth having is worth working for, but I think the really hard part for me was finding that courage and without a doubt happiness takes courage. Only a short time ago I had a really big fear of missing out, of not getting the approval of others. I would buy concert tickets not because I wanted to see the band, but just because I was afraid of missing out. It is such a freeing feeling to know that I am courageous enough to say no to plans because they won’t make me happy. I am courageous enough to tell people my hobbies don’t include going out to bars, but blogging and obsessing about my next home DIY project because that is what truly makes me happy. Never be ashamed of the healthy and happy decision you make in your life just because others might disapprove.
I love this quote and I really think it rings true to how our society is today. So often I feel like we are all under this pressure to be a certain way, to be perfectly put together, and not show the world our struggles. But honestly, I feel like the world would be a better place if we all accepted the struggles that are required to achieve beauty in our lives. I know we would all have a better relationship with others if we recognized that everyone is fighting their own battle. And I know for certain that we would have better relationships with ourselves if we accepted the struggles we go through as a part of something greater, a way to achieve a more beautiful life. This week and weeks to come I hope to accept this about myself, to realize how far I have come in life and the butterfly I am today as well as the beautiful butterfly I can become.
I love this quote because I think it applies to every aspect of our lives. What we put energy in to, is where we see the most growth, most reward, and most love. This is true for careers, relationships, spirituality, and personal development. A lot of times people get caught up in comparing ourselves to others or wanting what others have already achieved, I know I do. I think if I take all that time I waste worrying or yearning for something I don’t currently have, and place that in efforts to improve (metaphorically water my grass) myself, my career, my relationships whatever the case may be, I would see so much growth. This is all easier said than done, how do we have enough hours in the day to water our grass in every area of our lives? Its overwhelming! I think this week and in future I am going to make an effort to spend a little time each day caring for myself in whatever area needs improvement, whatever area that has grass that needs a little TLC. Even if that is just getting up earlier in the morning to work out, read a bible verse, or make breakfast so David and I can share a meal together, I will be one step closer to greener grass. I just need to make sure I focus on those small and wonderful things, enjoying those moments.
I think being present in the moment has always been a struggle for me. I have a creative mind and an active imagination, which I wouldn’t trade for the whole, but that sometimes leaves me lost in my thought instead of lost in the moment. I am trying to practice mindfulness, really being present in a moment. Don’t get me wrong, there is a time for a wandering mind, creative brainstorms, and wild imagination, but finding a balance of these things and being mindful has been a struggle lately. I find myself in a work meeting, a church sermon, or even a conversation with a coworker having my thoughts wander to my growing to-do list, a potential blog post, or even the excitement I have about my wedding. I find that I am missing information, missing great moments or funny jokes, or really just missing an opportunity to connect with someone because of my wandering mind. This week I am going to continue to try and be mindful, to pay attention more and wander a little less.